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The Fedora Lounge. Vintage dating? Nov 17, 1. Messages: Anyone know of any good vintage dating sites?
I googled it and all I found was stuff in relation to wine, and something in Pennsylvania. It seems like a lot of women these days don't know how to act, or treat a fella. Is there some sort of site where I could meet girls who are a bit more old fashioned? Or am I just stuck with myspace and match.
Nov 17, 2. Messages: 1, There is a Fedora Lounge site on Facebook you could try. Nov 17, 3.
Messages: 3, I think there are a couple rockabilly dating sites. Also, there's eHarmony, which I hear works.
Also, there's PM on the Fedora Lounge. Nov 17, 4.
Messages: 2, Thing is, many different people are into vintage for different reasons. A woman that is into pin ups and bangs, doesn't necesserily want to be treated like a woman of the 50s. I don't think if you found someone on a "vintage" dating site, you would necesserily get along.
Most old fashioned women or men don't really consider themselves to be that. I would suggest you use a normal dating site and specify what you are or want in terms of 'old fashioned' or "into vintage style" or "like a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman.
Nov 17, 5. And i tried eharmony once, they told me they couldn't find anyone to match me with. Nov 17, 6. I've never really dated as I seemed to always be in a long-term relationship before I tied the knot. And honestly, with my divorced friends, the prospects seem so bewildering. So I'm sending you good wishes that you find the retro girl of your dreams Nov 17, 7. Messages: 5, One of the guys eHarmony set me up with had pictures of himself in chain mail.
And he said he couldn't live without AA. And he lived in Montana. Not quite what I had in mind. I would try going to swing or other vintage dances to find somebody.
Nov 17, 8. Messages: 21, With online dating you have to be prepared for the possibility that you'll lose a few dollars discovering there is noone on their database that remotely suits you my experience with match. A female friend of mine unsubscribed from a site she was on because - despite her profile clearly stating otherwise - she was flooded with offers of men who were older than her late father.
When she complained about this to the company running the board, they suggested she be "more open minded. Most any retro-styled lady I've ever met would relieve a man of several limbs were he to suggest she adopt the 50s wifey role model. Nov 17, 9.
I'm going to throw a couple things out there - and I mean no offense to anyone. I think that rockabilly someone more "vintage minded" starts from within. A large complaint amongst my single friends is that men dating want to date or court anymore. We are completely thrown for a loop when we actually stumble upon someone who does. This means that I have found it very rare that someone opens my car door, offers to put on my coat, or checks on my comfort while out with the gang.
Even the rushing to make things physical too early changes my impression of dating. When a fellow actually treats me or my girlfriends with respect, site, taking things slow but always assuring one of interest, we act in kind if we are interested. Dating traditionally with new technology and heightened sexual expectations is a difficult path because the instant gratification that society encourages doesn't fall in line with the anticipation and building of a relationship like it used to perhaps IMHO.
Stating it clearly in an online profile - I think you might be surprised how much response you get. Because there are even girls online like to be courted in a traditional way, meaning the guy does the pursuing, the date planning and the follow-up. Statements must be backed by actions.
Looking for an old-fashioned girl and treating her how society has deemed "dating" is now seems like it would be difficult to work out. I second the idea that a dance class or a swing dance night might be a good place to meet a girl who wants a man to be a man. Just my 2 cents. Nov 17, I think that The Shirt has hit it with her comments - particularly on the WHERE of site women who share your aethetics and interests.
And just given the average male to female ration alone, you have to assume there are more vintage-interest ladies out there than gentlemen, wondering the exact dating you are. Just because a vintage-interest gal wants to be treated like a lady while being courted, does not mean she plans to fit into your life in the manner of the 's.
I wear vintage everyday, and rockabilly old fashioned manners. Although as my friend pointed out, I am so used to UN-gentlemanly men, that I never notice when he pulls out a chair for me! But when I do notice, those manners are much appreciated. I make my own schedule.
I will cook for a man, but assume he will help clean up, and cook for me on occasion, too. Online is not an awful way to find people, but for heaven's sake, be sure you make yourself easy to find! Use your keywords, like vintage, retro, swing dancing. I've actually recently decided to take advice similar to that which The Shirt gave you, and I'm no longer actively looking for anything. Being single is not such an awful thing. But I'm going to be moving to San Francisco, and will be making myself busy with the Art Deco society, going out swing dancing, catching the really good rockabilly shows.
And I may try to get a little part-time job at one of the vintage shops in town. Just maybe, something good will come along when I'm not looking. And if not Playing the Odds Men are usually in the minority at dances. If you go to I've seen Denver called "Menver" online, but no matter what I go to, it's always attended by a gaggle of women and a few husbands who have been dragged along. Messages: 14, I am actually Hemingway Jones.
And I don't like dating thre. Please - we are really seeing an alarming rise in these kinds of thre again, and we prefer to keep things on a more vintage-themed plane. Show Ignored Content. Share This Tweet. Your name or address: Do you already have an ? Yes, my password is: Forgot your password?