Reporter Paige Ingram visited their home where the taboo subject is openly discussed, to find out more about the often frowned upon practice of 'Swinging'. The couple wanted to remain anonymous, so the man has been referred to as 'A' and his female partner as 'L'.
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I even traveled to Wales to meet people. Some people just wanted to come to my flat and get on with it, but it's all very well having them round but once they leave, you're on your own. A and L first met in Colchester town centre inand for the first few years of their relationship their sex life was fairly conventional. Inthey began to look into the practice of swinging, but it wasn't until last year that they visited their first swinging club.
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Whether you are; gay, straight, or bisexual, single or have been happily married for odd years, anyone can be a 'swinger'. In its most common form, the practice involves couples doing what's called a 'full swap', where two couples will swap partners and engage in full sexual intercourse.
A and L first looked into swinging after one of A's work colleagues would constantly talk about the app 'Fab Swingers'. The year-old said: " I used to take it with a pinch of salt but then I downloaded the app and started looking into it.
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The first club A and L attended was Mingles in Colchester ina private members club for over 25s, advertised as somewhere "to relax, have fun and play in a beautiful, sexy environment". L, who is 41, added: "I initially thought 'no that's disgusting, that's not for me'. When we were being given a tour, there were lo of people there staring at us. It was a bit intimidating.
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L said she always shuts her eyes or wears a blindfold during intercourse because she doesn't want to see the other person, but A likes to watch her while they are swinging. A said: "I've always wanted to watch her have sex with someone else, to see how her body moves and her enjoying it.
The pair advise that if you are in a committed relationship and are thinking about swinging, you both need to be per cent committed and set clear boundaries before you start. L said: "We both said from the very beginning that our rules were no kissing. I always said I don't mind watching or being watched.
I even have my suspicions about my groups of friends. A, who works for a tool rental service in Essex, believes there is a lot of money in the sex industry and thinks that there are clubs in Essex that even he is unaware of. He said: "Sex is meant to be fun, it's not just a way of expressing your affections.
L however is a little more reserved and said: "I love the thrill of going but it's like Russian Roulette, its a big thing. The pair also described some of their experiences at three of the swinging clubs they visited, and rated their overall experience out of ten. The pair rated Vanilla Alternative VA nine out of ten for its excellent facilities and friendly atmosphere. A said: "There was only one lockable room at Mingles.
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When we went there were literally queues of people waiting in the hall to use it and when you can't play its no fun. By Paige Ingram. up to our newsletter for daily updates and breaking news Invalid Something went wrong, please try again later.
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